Family is > (greater than) Individuals & Symbolic Interactions

Last week we explored a few of the many theories explaining life in a family.  The two that resonated most with me were the Family Systems Theory and the Symbolic Interaction Theory.  I have seen both of these at work in my own family as well as in other situations. 
          A perspective of the both the Family Systems Theory and the Symbolic Interaction Theory is that 'the whole is more than just the sum of its parts'.  The family together as a family is more than just each member coexisting.  Think of an Oreo and milk... there is the cookie, the frosting, and the milk.  Put them simply together and they're just that... a cookie and milk.  No big deal.  But have them interact and the result is a wonderful snack.  The way they influence each other makes them much more than a cookie and milk; the milk softens and moisturizes the cookie and the entire experience is better.  So it is with a family.  You have a wife, a husband, a son, or whoever.  Yes, they are all great and have strengths, but it is their interactions as a family that make them so much more than just individuals cooperating.  There are bonds, deep connections, memories, values and unity. 
         Furthermore, this means that a single member of the family cannot be fully understood without looking at their family.  Each individual is so much more because of their family than they would be as an individual.  Additionally, the family has boundaries and rules that help define the family as a unique and functional system.  That is the Family Systems theory.
           The Symbolic Interaction theory explains how individuals within a relationship may interpret situations or actions differently.  Each action has an intended meaning and an understood meaning.  A difference in interpretation can potentially cause issues.  For example, a husband comes home from work and starts doing the dishes in the kitchen.  The wife may be offended, thinking "he must really think I'm slacking and is disappointed by the dishes in the sink."  In reality, the husband loves and appreciates his wife and all she does; he wants to help her out and lighten her load.  If there is not communication, this misunderstanding could result in hurt feelings or more.  Communication and willingness to hear out a spouse's concern will bring strength and resilience to a relationship.